The Question:

Often, I just feel lonely and disconnected, even though I have lots of friends and a caring partner – what can I do? 

Our culture today distracts and discourages us from getting much physical touch.  We sit at computers in cubicles, isolate ourselves with video games, I-pods, social networking on the internet – during which there is no in-person physical connection in hearing, sight, scent or touch from another human. This disconnectedness has been shown to lower immune functions and increase illness.

The Answer:

Several sources suggest that everyone needs much more physical touch than we are probably getting – at least four hugs a day for healthy survival, eight hugs a day for emotional strength and 12 hugs a day to really grow and be empowered.  As research continues, the number only gets higher.  Stop and think about just how often you give or get a hug.  We need to reach out for friends, family, loved ones and ask for a real hug.  If we don’t have enough friends we can comfortably and appropriately hug – we need to make more!  We aren’t talking about just “it would be nice” to connect more – we are talking about our healthy survival!  Read the excellent book “Love and Survival” by Dr. Dean Ornish for the research and data that shows this clearly! 

PAIRS shows how to break down the barriers that build up over time in an intimate relationship.  Great insights!  Great tools!.”  –  Carol C., FL


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