The Question:

My friends and my partner say they know what I’m thinking – and they are wrong!  What’s going on?


I frown because I notice a strange pain in my knee, and my partner sees the look, thinks I’m upset about what she just said, and storms out of the room!  This is a case where it’s not just that others misunderstand us – it’s that based on their incorrect assumptions, they act towards us using that false information!


The Answer:

When it comes to mind reading, we don’t really do it very well.  Recent studies show that “strangers read each other with an average accuracy rate of 20 percent. Close friends and married couples nudge that up to 35 percent.  And almost no one ever scores higher than 60 percent.”  Mind reading can be like poison to a relationship.   We need to check out our assumptions as quickly as possible, rather than building a big problem out of nothing, and often making ourselves miserable for hours.  Check it out!


PAIRS has helped me to better understand my own emotions, accept them, and share them in a productive way.  I have better self-esteem and fuller appreciation of life now.”  –  Nell N., FL



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